Saturday, December 20, 2014

Time to Settle In
& Get Cozy!


It's getting colder, the holidays are upon us and, all of a sudden, I'm feeling the need to slow down and get cozy. Of course, that means hot chocolate, marshmallows, a comfy throw and my favorite holiday movies.

What brings you comfy, cozy happiness? Whatever it is, make sure to allow yourself to luxuriate in it this holiday season.

Don't think of it as goofing off. Think of it as prioritizing live out loud joy at the very top of your "to do" list.

You deserve it!

Wishing You & Your Family
a Happy & Healthy
Holiday Season &
a Very Happy New Year!



Friday, December 12, 2014

Entering the Quiet Behind 50,000 Thoughts

Meditation is not a way of making your mind quiet. It’s a way of entering into the quiet that’s already there – buried under the 50,000 thoughts the average person thinks every day. – Deepak Chopra

I've been meditating on and off (mostly off) for a couple of years now. I wish I had a good excuse for letting my practice lapse, but I don't.

It's not that I don't have time, because I do.

It's not that I can't sit still, because I can.

The issue is my inability to keep my very rambunctious monkey mind from beating on the walls and making a ton of noise.

In other words, I don't do stillness well.

That's why I was stunned the other day when I tried meditating in the tub. I was trying to relax my muscles after a long day. The lights were off and a lavender candle was burning. I didn't get into the tub intending to meditate, but figured if I couldn't find stillness there, I couldn't find it anywhere. 

I closed my eyes and attempted to still my mind, but it wasn't working. The factory that is my mind just kept spitting out its daily quota of the inane and completely forgettable.

Frustrated, I took another approach and deeply inhaled the lavender air and sat in the lotus position.

My mind continued to race, but I slowly became aware of something different rising up from underneath the noise.

I can't describe it, but it was unpleasant, as if my body was experiencing an inner pain I couldn't pinpoint. 

My thoughts became accusatory, "Why can't you be still. You're just trying to get out of meditating by making yourself feel sick or something."

But the feeling wouldn't go away. As I sat and struggled with it, slowly it made itself heard:

"Dying. Of. Thirst."

Except for a cup of tea that morning, I hadn't had any water that entire day. Unfortunately, being dehydrated isn't rare for me. What was rare was actually feeling thirsty because I've become desensitized and am usually able to completely ignore my body's cravings.

Ironically, as I meditated surrounded by water, I was finally able to enter "into the quiet that's already there." Connecting with my body (which was clearly suffering) allowed me to respond and I immediately got out of the tub and gave myself what I needed.

Find the stillness within isn't always easy. But meditation is always worth the effort,  even if all you realize is that you need a drink of water.

Have you ever been shocked by what arose within you when you quieted your monkey mind? Let me know in the comments below; I answer every one.



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Sunday, December 7, 2014

Thought for the Weekend


For most of life, nothing wonderful happens. If you don't enjoy getting up and working and finishing your work and sitting down to a meal with family or friends, then the chances are you're not going to be very happy. If someone bases his [or her] happiness on major events like a great job, huge amounts of money, a flawlessly happy marriage or a trip to Paris, that person isn't going to be happy much of the time. If, on the other hand, happiness depends on a good breakfast, flowers in the yard, a drink or a nap, then we are more likely to live with quite a bit of happiness."  - Andy Rooney

In other words, it's all about the little things. 



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Thursday, December 4, 2014

Coming 2015! Reserve Your Hope & Tea, You & Me Mentoring Session Now!

Where there's tea there's hope. Arthur Wing Pinero
Do you know the feeling you get sitting at a friend's kitchen table, sipping a cup of tea, sharing stories, and being heard and supported?
I love that feeling.
That was the feeling I was searching for when I created WhereWeGoNow. Being a part of the Positively Positive community gives me that feeling. We're all survivors of something and we're all trying to create a life of inspired healing, wellness and live out loud joy. 

And we all need connection to make it happen.

That's why I'm offering Hope & Tea, You & Me Mentoring Sessions. I know from experience that "There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you," (Maya Angelou) and I've experienced the healing power of sharing my stories. Now, I want to offer you what my mentors offered me: a healing space to be heard, understood, guided and inspired. 
Topics to be shared over tea include:

  • How to create more joy in your life
  • How to live your hope
  • Beginning a gratitude practice
  • How to reach out and be heard
  • Celebrating the "little things"
  • Practicing mindfulness to help you live in the here and now
  • What to do with difficult emotions, such as anger, loneliness and stress, and
  • many other possibilities

 You choose the length of each session, which run 30 minutes or an hour long. We'll meet via a Skype audio call (not video, so showing up in your PJ's is A-OK!) After the session, I'll send you an email with notes and some "homework" to help you implement what we've discussed. 

All you have to do to get started is fill out my questionnaire, which gives us both an idea of what you're looking for and how your sessions can be tailored to best serve you. To sign up, fill out the form below (all mentoring sessions are paid in USD via PayPal.) After that, we'll use email to schedule mutually convenient times to talk. If you have any questions, just send me a note at
Are you ready to connect with someone who understands the struggle of surviving whatever life throws at you? Do you want to open up and tell your story without fear of judgment? If you do, I'm holding a supportive space open just for you. 

Let's get together for a Hope and Tea, You and Me Mentoring Session very soon!



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A NOTE ABOUT CANCELLATIONS: If you can't make a booked session, you need to let me know via email ( and put CANCELLATION in the subject line at least two hours prior to our scheduled session in order to reschedule that session. If you cancel less than two hours before our session or don't show, that session cannot be rescheduled. Instead, you will need to schedule and pay for a completely new session. In other words, by submitting payment you are agreeing that your session is confirmed and that you agree to these terms. Also, please understand that, once a session is booked, there are no refunds.

DISCLAIMER: You must read and accept my Disclaimer before we can talk. (To accept, see the Disclaimer at the bottom of the questionnaire.) I am not a therapist, psychiatrist, psychologist, doctor or medical professional of any type. You must not take anything written on my website, or discussed during our mentoring session as medical or therapeutic advice. It is completely understood by you that we are coming together to talk only, and I am speaking to you solely in the capacity of a mentor. If you need medical help, seek out a doctor first. If you are feeling suicidal or are having violent thoughts toward others, please call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (US) 1-800-273-8255.

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